Hey guys, remember how I wrote about the office creeper?
And how he asked Boyfriend if I was sexually harassing him because I was
GIGGLING IN HIS OFFICE? Well, Creeper is still up to his good old fashioned
creeping.
Coworker told me about this interaction:
Bleh. Anyhoo, sometimes a few of us have lunch in the
conference room on Fridays. Creeper has started to join us, which is really
annoying because he’s not really invited, but we’re not Mean Girls so he’s not
NOT invited either, you know?
In general, the lunch crew is a mix of male and female and
younger and senior staff. A couple of weeks ago, however, only two young female
coworkers and I were around to eat. Or so we thought.
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| Poor naive us. |
Of course he had to come sit right next to ME:
We turned on the Olympics. Beach Volleyball was on.
We put on tennis but you could just see him ogling the girls. It was awful.
Guys, it’s really awful.
Unfortunately for me (and fortunately for you, if you like these posts),
I’m sure this isn’t the last of the Office Creep. It’s a thing.
Ugh.
I had one of those when I worked in an office. Somehow he got a hold of my personal e-mail, and sent me a message asking if he could take pictures of me, since he was a professional photographer, and he claimed to like my style. I said, "no." He asked for me to review his work before I wrote off the possibility of ever working with him, and I agreed. He sent me a sample, and it was two folders full of nudie pics. What was even more awkward is that his naked model was my ex-boyfriend's current girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteEw. Haha! He reminds me of this internet creep that I've blocked from Twitter, Facebook, and even G+. The creepiness is SO similar!
ReplyDeleteI really wish I could blog more about work, as there are a couple people that are SO blog-worthy. Alas, one of them reads my blog and feels the need to come and talk to me about EVERY SINGLE (semi-funny) post. Plus, any time he says something, he adds "Don't put that on your blog. Ha!" I would almost rather he was a perv.
ReplyDeleteJust the look of him is creepy. And it's not like you can report him for sexual harassment. He's not directly harassing anyone, he's just passively making everyone feel really uncomfortable. Can you report someone for having an aura of creepy? And how does he go his whole life and not get told how creepy he is so he can then correct his behavior?
ReplyDeleteThat's so weird. My office doesn't have anyone creepy but if you go down to the breakroom there's this one woman who has THE most annoying voice and she's SO loud an inappropriate. I mean, I curse like a sailor usually, but not here. She still does.
ReplyDeleteEvery office has one. At least in my experience! Isn't it funny how we will put up with people being kind of gross and rude because we don't want to be rude ourselves? I'd be sitting there eating lunch with the creeper too, trying to find a plausible escape. I wouldn't want to appear rude by getting up, rolling my eyes and moving. Instead I would just endure it. Sometimes I wish I could just be rude back. Of course, you can't do that at work, but how come the creeper gets to behave so badly?
ReplyDeleteHa! We had a grad student creeper once that actually displayed his certificate that said he achieved 100% on the sexual harassment training we are required to do. If you feel the need to broadcast that you know NOT to sexually harass someone, you are a creeper in my book.
ReplyDeleteI'm all for passive aggressive reverse creeping. Whenever he has one of his "moments" ask a female coworker if she took that eCourse on work place behavior and start discussing the valid points made in the course that point directly to his creepiness.
ReplyDeleteYuck! My old boss was like that, but he was SO STUPID that we could never tell if he was being lewd on purpose or if he was really just that clueless. Luckily he eventually quit (of course no one who deserves to get fired ever gets fired) - I found out later he got a government job in Social Services. Perfect.
ReplyDeletegross... why do guys think it's ok to be disgusting?
ReplyDeleteHa ha had one of those before years ago. Uggh.
ReplyDeleteThis makes me wish I worked with you. I would say something to make him as uncomfortable as he always makes you guys. I'm good at stuff like that.
ReplyDeleteI always end up sitting next to the bus creepers. They're even worse.
ReplyDeleteThis wasn't me, honest. I was the best man. There was a creep in a small office I worked in. He specialized in offering to walk women to public transit or their cars if it was anything much later than regular office hours. Since I was tending to come in a bit late, and work a bit late, they started telling him they were leaving with me, given I've been married a long time and most of the office knew my wife. And since several of them used the same LRT line it made sense. Then we tweaked our schedules so that nobody was alone with office creep after hours.
ReplyDeleteThe women cured him of off-colour remarks, though, and it was wonderful to see. He often said things that sort of straddled the line. Coming from someone you knew, and said a particular way it would be ok. With him you wanted to take a shower after, even me a few times. With only the tiniest bit of rehearsing, after he barfed out some such comment, everybody went frosty silent and looked at him. Nobody said anything, and no matter what he said, we took turns saying "I'm sorry, I'm having trouble grasping that last thing you said. Would you care to explain?" Eventually he clued in and improved his lunchtime verbal habits.
What's important is that you have to push back. Politely. Firmly. Based on your feelings. "Excuse me, I don't find that funny." "I feel uncomfortable when you say you are disappointed the volley ball players aren't in their bikinis."
Poor guy
ReplyDeleteI take it that he's kind of old from the pictures. So you can't really do much to him.
ReplyDeletePart of me feels bad for you. The other part of me can't wait to be an old man who can get away with everything simply because he's old.
Sadly, I think DWei nailed it. He's old. He's been doing this for longer than you've been alive. If no one's stopped his behavior by now, it's never going to happen. Just take some advice from my wife and carry around a shank. No one mouths off to a woman with a sharpened toothbrush covered in dried blood.
ReplyDeleteDo you live in Southern California? I'm pretty sure that guy's my neighbor.
ReplyDeleteOH WAIT. Never mind. My neighbor doesn't work. Silly me.
ReplyDeleteI've worked with a few of those in my day... Word to the wise, do NOT attempt to "out-creep" them... It can not be done.
ReplyDeleteI worked with a guy who had a creepy thing for red shoes. I did not realize this fact until I wore red shoes to work. I never wore red shoes again. Having someone stare voraciously at me feet all day long was so weird.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
OH GOSH...
ReplyDeleteOffice creepers are such a hard situation to handle sometimes...bleh..
Sorry, hun! Hopefully you guys will find a permanent solution.
Or...you could just dispose of his body. I'm sure no one would miss him, so you'd never be reported.